It is okay to be a person who is still healing. Because the truth is that we always will be. It is an always practice. That forever kind of love – with yourself.

Brianna Pastor

Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all…

Love is definitely in the air as it always is, and I was recently thinking about the song “Greatest Love of All,” and the movie title of the same name.

I loved this song as a child and you would catch me in front the mirror belting out the lyrics (totally off-key), my mic being brush, pen, comb basically anything within reach. But it’s only recently I started ruminating about the lyrics of this song, particularly this one line: learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.

I mulled, how does one learn to love oneself? We are taught and encouraged to love God, family, significant other, husband, wife, children and friends. We are also taught that true love is selfless. But who teaches us to love ourselves? Can self-love be taught, or is it an innate characteristic with which we are born? How easy is it to truly love oneself through the abuse, trauma, and ridicule that is meted out to us daily by family, friends and co-workers?

Can we love some parts of ourselves and not love other parts, the not-so-pleasant parts, the dark parts, the parts that make us cringe?  We need to learn to love both our inner and outer selves as we change and grow and appreciate ALL that we are becoming.

By no means am I a life coach or therapist but I am learning to love all parts of me. It is hard. It does not come easily or naturally for me especially after being jaded by negative comments and experiences throughout my life.

But I have realized a few things:

  • Firstly, I need to know who I am. This is easier said than done because I’m constantly growing and evolving.
  • Next, I have to accept me just the way that I am.
  • Lastly, I believe that I am loveable and worthy of love.
  • I deserve the best there is and so do you.

I am sending love to you all today and every day!

I would love to know how you love yourself.  Please share in the comments below.


  1. Indeed Maria, some things we definitely have to unlearn on this journey of life. We need to know that we are loveable and learn to love ourselves every day!

  2. You are so right. I think we are taught to get an education and seek a good partner but there is now enough emphasis, on getting to know ourselves and by extension even loving ourselves.

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