Laughter is timeless.

Imagination has no age.

And dreams are forever.

  • Walt Disney

Something has been bothering me of late. I genuinely want to know why people think it’s okay to tell me or anyone else for that matter that we look good for our age. I’m not sure if I should be flattered or offended.

Hear me out. Have you ever asked yourself what 30 looks like or 40 or even 55? You get my drift. So why is it okay to tell people they look good for their age. What physical requisites are necessary to qualify for this looking – good – for – one’s – age statement? I’ve had fine lines around my eyes for a good ten years or more, does this disqualify me from looking good for my age?

I am just as guilty as the other person because I’m sure it may have rolled off my tongue easily to some unsuspecting individual. But in retrospect it is rude and inconsiderate. What if the person does not look good for his/her age, what then? And please take my stupid advice and never make the mistake of asking, ‘How old do I look?’ because that my friend can turn awkwardly uncomfortable both for the asker and the askee and go downhill fast. In fact, let’s leave age out of the conversation altogether.

And this isn’t for purely cosmetic reasons either, there are so many factors that can affect how good’ a person looks:

  • Terminal illness
  • Chronic disease
  • Death of a loved one/pet
  • Trauma
  • Relatives who go missing
  • Pregnancy
  • Stress
  • Depression
  • Grief
  • Menopause/perimenopause

And these are just a few.

On reflection, instead of telling people they look good for their age, we can just say they look great and keep it moving. The end.

I’ll go first, y’all look great! :)

P.S. that’s the me in the pic above and I look good. Period.

Has anyone told you that you look good for your age?

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